In May I found out MS was going to be at Chicago Con and told my husband I wanted to attend, since the dates of the convention were right around my birthday. I wanted a day or two away from the house, kids, laundry, cooking, dishes, groceries, sweeping, vacuuming, etc. I wanted time to remember life is more than running after this child, cleaning up after that child, answering the phone, getting MY honey do list, planning meals, and keeping the house running and in order.
I NEVER ask for things like this for any number of reasons. For one the cost, for two who will care for the kids, and for three, the house would probably drop if I left my husband here alone with all the kids. Don't get me wrong, he is a good man, he provides for us, works very hard, keeps the maintenance up on the house and so on. He doesn't cheat on me, or hurt me, but he's just not really good about taking care of the kids. Not enough patience or experience with actually dealing with all the day to day needs they each have.
Having said all of that, I was told he would make going to the convention happen. He knew how important it was to me, knew I wanted and needed time to just me, to be just me and not "Mom" for a short time. He told me he would make it happen one way or another, and I was counting on it. Well, real life hit, and I was not able to go. I did have a good birthday, got some money from my mom, who told me to get something just for me, which I did. I had a bit of time to shop and not worry about what each child is doing, etc.
I did however get a call from my husband during the shopping asking me when I was coming home, the kids needed food, drink, etc. and he was busy. *eye roll here* Annoyance from all get out at the time, still irks me a bit, but I finished what I was doing, didn't hurry, and everyone survived. Get home, took care of lunch, etc, got pictures taken of what I got myself to show my mom what I got, and the rest of the day went like any other day. Me cleaning up after MY cake, doing laundry til damn near 11 at night, etc. Happy Birthday to me.
Today was even better! Do this and do that, make sure husband is happy, and don't forget ice with that. Cook, clean, run up and get him clean clothes cause he can't do it before he gets in the shower like the other people in the house over the age of 7, laundry, help him pack his lunch, clean things, etc. Oh, and don't forget the honey do list, with him calling me, telling me things he forgot, things I now get to take care of, running here there and everywhere to cover his butt.
Anyone wonder why I wanted to get the hell out of Iowa for a day or two?? Away from him?? Time for me?? I love him, but so help me, if I don't get drunk quickly it's gonna be on. I am very happy for those who were able to attend, and had a good time. Just wish like the dickens I could have been there, if for no other reason, to get out of this house and my housekeeper/waitress/chauffeur/bookkeeper job for a day or two.